Has she done any handgun shooting?

Received any instruction from someone who knows how to teach handgun skills?

Does she have a preference for semi-auto or revolver?

A lot of new shooters have trouble with semi auto pistols. A lot of new shooters have trouble controlling a 9mm, let alone a 40 cal pistol.

How 'bout easing her into it, letting her shoot a good 22 pistol? Learn the basics, and grow from there.

I teach a lot of new handgun shooters, and a common problem is starting with a gun that's difficult for a newbie to control.

Let her help in the selection process. Be patient.

Regards, Guy